This weekend Daughter had to wear a hooded zip up sweatshirt because it was cool out. Of course, it was bright pink and had Hello Kitty on it as well as some sparkles for good measure. Son brought it up to me to put it on him and I let him wear it. I thought about taking a photo and then thought I couldn't because I would be deemed a bad mother for letting him wear it. In reality I don't care what my son wears as long as he has clothes on and I thought it was cute that he wanted to be like his sister. Because isn't that what every younger sibling wants to be?
Having a son has made me realize how many limitations boys have. By society (certainly not me) they're taught that they can't wear pink, they can't show emotions, they can't cry, they can't wear heels, they can't wear make up, and the list goes on. However, the one thing society can't manage to teach is not to rape. If we can put so many limitations on males, why can't we start teaching DO NOT RAPE? It's pretty simple really, rape is acceptable in absolutely no situation. It's pretty simple and can be applied in all of the following situations:
- If a girl has had too much to drink and can not consent (there are two New York Police Officers that should learn this)
- If a girl says yes and then changes her mind
- If a girl has been smoking pot
- If a girl is dressed in "revealing" clothes
- If a girl makes sexual advances
- If a girl is dressed older than she is
15 of 16 rapists will never spend a day in jail. Partly because over 60% of sexual assaults are never reported, but also because society spends so much time blaming the victim that rapists get off without any consequence to their action. This needs to stop. I, for one, will be teaching Son and Daughter that rape is never okay and is always the rapists fault. Maybe if more people do that we could make a difference and start to change society. (I will also be teaching it's okay to wear pink, that it is perfectly normal to have emotions, that it's okay to cry and if cross dressing is the only thing I have to worry about I will buy him a pair of Jimmy Choos and take him out for a night on the town because it pretty low on my list of concerns as a parent and it would mean I raised a very confident child).
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